A three-minute self-assessment

The Invisible Tax

Unaddressed relationship friction has a cost. This free assessment helps you see what it may be costing you at work and at home.

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About the method

The Drift Diagnostic looks at three ordinary places friction hides: what you stopped doing together, what you have left unsaid about the person, and the sentence you keep avoiding.

The Drift Diagnostic

Answer what feels true.

0 of 9 answered

A

What did we used to do together that we no longer do?

Shared routines often show drift before anyone names it.

01How often do you and this person do something together that used to feel natural?
02How noticeable is the gap between what you used to do and what you do now?
03How clear are you on one small thing you would like to do together again?
B

When did I last tell this person plainly what they mean to me?

Meaning lands best when it is said plainly, not assumed.

01How easy is it to say what you value about this person without softening it?
02Which statement best describes how plainly you express appreciation?
03How confident are you that this person knows what they mean to you?
C

What am I avoiding saying?

Unsaid things use attention, even when they stay quiet.

01How much are you holding back from saying what you really think or feel?
02How much energy goes into managing what you do not say?
03How ready are you to name one honest, useful next sentence?

Choose one response for each question to continue.

A clear place to start

Small clarity can change the next conversation.

The point is not to label a relationship. The point is to notice where your attention is going, then choose one honest move.

Questions you may have

What is the Invisible Tax Self-Assessment?

It is a short set of questions about shared activity, plain appreciation, and what may be left unsaid. It gives you a useful snapshot of relationship friction at work, at home, or in a personal relationship.

Do I need to create an account?

No. You can take the assessment without a login and without giving an email address. An email is only requested if you want the full written Drift Diagnostic and the deeper tool.

What happens with the information I submit?

If you request the full tool, Lionel Moses / EmpowerSync receives the contact details and assessment information you choose to submit. You can opt out of text messages at any time by replying STOP.